Midlife Self-Discovery

Guidance and Support for Personal Change

We do our best to design a life for ourselves when choosing a major, a spouse, a career, or a location. Some people are content to live lives largely similar to their teenage years, happy to live lives anchored with the things of childhood that never fade away. Sometimes the contexts into which we are born continue to define us throughout our lives in ways that do not require change. And some people manage to make a life at the age of 22 or 25 that allows for flexibility and adaptation. These people acquire an education that provides them with the skills and circumstances toward a career that transforms into new opportunities at the proper moments. Or they find partners who nimbly accompany and challenge them, constantly supplementing their weaknesses and complementing their strengths.

For those who find that they’re outgrowing the lives they thought they would lead, navigating this transition is difficult. Sometimes, it is excruciating. Accepting change often means leaving behind the things that anchor you into an old life that no longer fits: friends, spouses, jobs, parents, health, homes. For some people, the experience is less an invitation toward something better than an exile from what you loved, forced by circumstance to wander.

It becomes wrenching to try to cling to these familiar circumstances as they’re stripped away, even though it is a justifiable response to the sudden onset of the unknown as it crashes into your manicured, carefully cultivated life. The sense of sudden freedom that violates the former sanctity of your life can cause you to swing from joy to panic to despair. These are difficult times, and very few resources aid you through them.

If you find yourself in such circumstances, people in your life likely do not understand you. These transformations are difficult to place in language. It is easy for those who have loved who you were before you transformed, what you see increasingly as a false self, to misunderstand love as calling you back into places you’ve left behind before you realized what you’d done. You may feel guilt, or shame. It is tempting at such points to act out in panic, or to act in ways that make situations explode. This decision is what causes the midlife transition to become a midlife crisis.

Daniel is familiar with such transitions: having navigated his own—on his own—he has since worked with several others who engage sudden, drastic, midlife transformations to provide them with resources, strategies, scaffolding, and support.

Prices and plans negotiable.

Options include:

**How to translate current confusion into a clear question and task

**How to measure your progress toward resolving that task

**Cultivating personal tools and skills important within each task

**A retainer toward in-depth messaging between meetings for particularly intense moments of transition.